People marry for different reasons, but marriage counsellors have advised that if there is no love between intending couples, it is better they dissolve the relationship and avoid tying the nuptial knot. However, experiences have shown that some people still go ahead to marry themselves even when they knew they didn’t love themselves—just to achieve their different motives. some people were asked some people whether they could marry someone they didn’t love (who are, however, from rich homes) just to receive favours from their families
That marriage may not last
Kolawole Rachael
If you marry someone with this kind of mindset, I bet that in no time, you will go your separate ways. That’s why it’s always best to love the person first and then let other considerations follow. For me, I won’t marry a man just because his parents are rich. I must love him and vice-versa or else we’ll eventually break up. A lady should know how to present herself in such a way that a man will not take her for granted and make her think that without him, there would be no her. We must aspire to be success-oriented too and create our own future; if that happens, one would not be looking for a rich dude to marry by all means. If it happens, it’ll just be a plus.
Who wants to marry nobodies?
Ray Fakuade
The relationship will end up a failure if I marry her only to get favours from her family. Sooner or later, my intention will be revealed and they would chase me from their family. So, who loses in the end? The point I’m driving at is that I still have to love the lady even if my intention is to receive such favours. Meanwhile, there’s nothing wrong in pairing with a family that you know could drive you further in life. Who wants to associate with nobodies? If the family could help me achieve great things in life by marrying their daughter, why wouldn’t I? That’s not downgrading myself, but making a smart connection. All the same, like I said, I will love the lady truly and not use her for a selfish agenda.
I don’t have that mindset
Moradeke Abiodun
Poverty reasoning at work! Why do I need to marry a man just because his family is rich? I have no thought of such in my life because I am determined to make it and make men pursue me rather than looking for a rich man that I can marry. By the way, it’s always good to have a man who has more vision than money. The money can fly away but his ideas cannot. That’s the best man to be with and that’s my mindset.
That’s looking down on myself
Femi Akintola
No, I won’t marry a lady who is from a rich home because of their money. I am not poor and even if I were, I wouldn’t remain so all my life. That’s what is called ‘downgrading’ oneself. It is inferiority complex at display – thinking that I cannot make it in life if I don’t marry a rich lady. It’s a poverty and stinking mentality to me. It’s like looking down on myself and thinking I wouldn’t make it. As a matter of fact, I love modest homes and I’d probably marry a lady from one of such.
If he’s responsible, I don’t care if he’s poor or rich
Dorgu Matilda
It’s only ladies who are afraid of their future that would run after rich men. I am glad to tell you that I am not one of such. Personally, I don’t look at a man’s wallet to judge whether he’s the right one for me to choose; rather, I will look for what’s in his heart and brain. If I know he’s got good stuffs up there, I can marry him. Meanwhile, I’m not saying I cannot marry a rich man, but not because of what he possesses. He must truly love me and must be a man of good intentions. So if a man is responsible, I wouldn’t really care whether he comes from a rich or poor family.
